116. Is Love Romantic? And What Is Romance?
I think that as a collective, we fundamentally understand that love isn’t inherently romantic. After all, there are several people, places, and things that we “love”. But from my understanding, love is entirely more pervasive than that. But the actual vibration of love can be disagreed upon. Is love actually everything? Is it alignment? Is it wholeness? Is it being your most authentic self? I think that there’s still quite a bit to go into regarding love, but it’s a fascinating topic overall.
So let’s talk about romance. I have heard throughout history, literature, and time that the term “romance” is unrelated to romantic love. But why do we match it so inherently now? To me, any beautiful moment of magic that you share with something, anything, is “romantic”. It’s a feeling of spark, a feeling of joy and wonder. And to be honest, I think it’s incredibly different for everyone. To me, I find many landscapes romantic. I feel romance when I feel one with nature and the universe. Personally, I think that nature is incredibly romantic.
However, the term “romance” is theoretically semantics. Perhaps in different cultures and languages, it’s not so paired with romantic love. Or maybe it is. But it’s interesting how some people perceive it, and others don’t. To be honest, I’m not right or wrong because I perceive it this way. If someone only wishes to perceive romance through romantic love, it’s certainly their right.
But let’s question. Do we need “romance”, given that it’s a beautiful or joyful moment? Is it simply just a subset of magic? Why are we as a society so drawn to it? Is it because of pop culture? So many overlaps and so many questions, still chalked up to being unique to each and every individual.
Here’s what I’ll say at a high level. The vibration of love isn’t inherently “romantic”, and I don’t feel that romance is either. After all, there are “romantic” things that are inherently romantic, without the involvement of another person. While I do reckon that much of our relationship with romance tends to be commercialized, perhaps there is an inner wanting for the concept of romance. And I think that you can find it out without the involvement of another person, if you simply don’t have the opportunity.
So many elements and aspects of our lives are cross-web, or in other words, they are so pervasive that one physical manifestation can’t possibly inhabit such a grand, energetic concept. Perhaps there are other things in this lifetime that make you feel warm and fuzzy inside.
I do find it interesting that we are so obsessed with romantic love, when not only do many people not have successful romantic loves in this lifetime, but again, love is one of the most pervasive energetic vibrations of the universe. You are love, and everything is love. It’s hard to exist in a society that tells you otherwise. Although I do feel that many people enter relationships under the guise that they “should” do it, and not that it feels right. Perhaps that’s why so many relationships fail, or perhaps not.
One of the most interesting findings is that we simply embody love, and no one can “bring” love to us; they can only spark it within ourselves. Same with romance. As we go through life, we’re just bombarded with different impressions that trigger these energies. If you think about it, these feelings start and end inside, just with the trigger of something or someone else. It’s sort of a simple idea that ladders up to a grander philosophy of law of attraction. I’m sure you’ve heard that if you don’t love yourself, you may not find romantic love. Despite it being kind of a rude phrase, there is theoretically some truth to it. People can only illicit things that you “have” inside of you. In a way, I feel that it’s sort of freeing. The opportunities are theoretically endless.
As long as you search for things that illicit this kind of love, you can theoretically live any type of life or lifestyle and be happy. I think that many of us know this at the end of the day, but we have a strong fear of the unknown, and doing things “wrong” or not “right”. If we don’t have a guidebook and we fail, we can only blame ourselves. But if we take someone else’s advice, we can, of course, blame them. It’s really not fair to you or others. That’s why it’s important to move forward with your most authentic desires and actions.
Know that even if you feel alone, you never actually are alone. You’re simply the extension of a greater consciousness. There’s no one who “fits in” more or belongs more; it’s simply how they perceive themselves amongst the collective. You belong just as much as everyone else. It’s only you who forces yourself away from the collective. And despite you being “alone” at times in the physical world, you have spirit guides on the other side. As well as many other spirits, ancestors, etc.
I think the learning lesson here is to never stop fighting for the feelings that you want. Thankfully, we live in a day in age where we can be “shown” through TV and movies, what feeling “options” there are out there. But the best advice is to be receptive and not to block. This way, you are open and available. Although TV and movies can often be unrealistic and potentially damaging/harming, I find that being exposed to many things gives you more insight and allows you to, at times, be better at refining what you want.
